Because it IS about Race!

Trigger warning: sexual violence and abuse I’m pissed [p.s. I’m not sorry for the language, Grammy]. Facebook has been flooded today with mug shots of four Chicago teens who have been charged with a Hate Crime after live-streaming abuse of a disabled man. As an advocate for peace, it should go without saying that I do…

Transformation: The Wayne Wonder Theorem

One of my favorite hymns: “No Letting Go” by Wayne Wonder: Yes, I know what you’re thinking. I should have left my ratchet ways back in 2016, but stick with me people. Verse 1 (edited to be gender neutral because God is too good to be confined to one gender): Got somebody she’s they’re a beauty Very…

Jeremy, Jesus was a mess too…

Last week, I was asked to work with another individual to provide an overview of Kwanza at the Fatherhood Coalitions Holiday Ice Cream Social. I quickly sent an email back to the individual making this request, stating, “I actually do not celebrate holidays and know very little about Kwanza so I cannot take on this…

But who holds space for me?

Back in May, my mentor shared with me a lovely article on “holding space.” Holding Space: It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people,…

I’m a Bitch [p.s. #S4tlG]

I’m a Bitch [p.s. #S4tlg – sorry for the language, Grammy]. Is there a word for that moment when a song describes your current situation? I love those moments. I think that’s why memes are so popular and why you feel reassured when you start to type a random question into Mother Google’s search engine and you find…

Forgive AND Forget, or Nah?

Last night at Think Tank, – aka Tabernacle’s Bible Study- we discussed the tension Christian’s may feel around the concept of “forgiveness.” We’ve all been told the phrase, “Forgive and Forget,” or read the scriptures: Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do…

The Gospel of Kevin Hart

I love Kevin Hart. From the Chocolate Droppa mixtape to “My mom told me to tell you!” I can’t get enough. I’ve had the pleasure of seeing his show, twice, while at IUP (yes, he really is the tiniest man in the world) and he’s my go to when I need a self-care day. So…

Baby X

Lord, please bless my future partner with the patience to withstand my madness. If/when God grants me the right to  birth or mother a child, I’d like to name my baby ‘X’.  Assigning a ‘X’ is a common practice among Black Muslims. The idea is to relinquish your given name and replace it with an…

Body Count: you know you gotta multiply by 3

Before I begin, I’d like to issue a blanket statement: “p.s. sorry for the language and ratchetness, Grammy.” It’s likely I will say quite a few things that will make you, my sweet Grammy, cringe. Rather than repeating this phrase multiple times throughout my post, please accept my sincerest apology in advance. Now back to…

Faded Out Delaware

I made a promise, to myself, that I would make one post a day so that my blog would stay “relevant.” After spending the end of the day, alone, in my office, in tears I knew I would break the promise I made to myself. The last thing I wanted to- or could do- was…

Can You Hear Jesus Knocking at Your Door?

Feminist Spoiler Alert: I do NOT cook. Sorry, future partner. Don’t come over here with those traditional gender roles. I eat. I do NOT cook. I’m the type of person that buys something from the market, takes it to the office potluck and fronts like I whipped that up like I was Betty Crocker. That is, until that one…

My Best Friend is a “Dumb Old White Lady”

White people, man. I think I make the face above, at least once a day… on a “good” day. I can see why people – and when I say people, I mean White people who get uncomfortable when I call out their White supremacy and White privilege- think I “hate” White people. It’s probably because I…